But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way (Daniel 1:8). Young Daniel has just entered King Nebuchadnezzar’s three-year palace training program as a result of Babylon’s conquest of Judah. Being an upright man in the eyes of God, Daniel knows that to eat the food offered to him from the king’s table would be a direct contradiction to the dietary laws of God. It shouldn’t be a big deal, right? When in Babylon, do as the Babylonians do! Not so for Daniel. He resolved not to defile himself, and God honored his purity of heart by causing the king’s official to have favor and compassion for Daniel and to make an exception for his diet.
Believers today are still in this place of needed decision: will we compromise our purity because of the push of our surroundings, or will we resolve to remain pure?
Let’s take this focus to our marriages. In the couple’s covenant of love, the husband is to promote his wife’s holiness as Christ does for His Church (see Ephesians 5:26-27). But here’s the reality: You can’t promote, you can’t give away what you do not have. If the husband lives in a compromised state of tolerating sin in his own life, then he is unable to be instrumental in the increasing sanctification of his wife.
I have a strong caution to give to husbands- that tempting, one little glance at the website is a compromise with dire consequences. You think that I am over-reacting, because in your mind, you have this under control. You can stop visiting that website any time you wish to stop. It’s not a problem, you say.
You’re wrong. I know you’re wrong, because the Word of God shines the light on the real issue: “Death and destruction are never satisfied and neither are the eyes of man” (Proverbs 27:20). If you entertain internet pornography, you have a problem because according to Scripture, your eyes are never satisfied. That is why you have revisited a site after vowing to yourself that you have done so for the last time.
Death and destruction. These are the wages of sin resulting from our being led astray by evil desires and the deception of the enemy. In the context of marriage, trustworthiness dies as betrayal reigns in the heart of one whose eyes are never satisfied. Marriage vows are broken leaving wrecked relationships in the aftermath. Wake up, please! You do not have to be held captive to this addiction. There is a power that overcomes every stronghold of the enemy. The Father in heaven is for you, friend. He has already won this battle and will give you a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline if you call upon Him for help.
Will you be intentional and have a resolve to not be defiled by the things of this world? Your wife and your family are depending upon you.