the old nag

My family is in the midst of planning a get-away to Nags Head, a town on the famous Outer Banks of North Carolina.  The story of how the town got its name is interesting.  Reportedly, ships transporting rum from the Caribbean to the states would look along the Outer Banks for a beacon of light in the nighttime hours and were led safely to shore by a mule or a small horse with a lantern around her neck.

The nag, or small horse, had a useful purpose.  The nag, or quarrelsome wife, has quite the opposite effect!  She drives her husband far from her!  Proverbs 21:9 states, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”  That’s harsh, but that’s the truth.  No one wants to come home from a full day of work to hear comments that are interpreted as “You are not good enough.  Do better.”

And why do we often fall into that rut of having a critical spirit?  I have found that we wives tend to get short and hypercritical when we are feeling rushed and under a lot of pressure.  We want to just make our demand known and move on to the next thing!  But it doesn’t make for a pleasant atmosphere, does it?

I started to go down that path of rushing to straighten up the house the other day, and instead of complaining about some invoices laying around, I decided to take a different approach.  I asked my husband where he would like me to place them!  He told me which file they belonged in; I delivered them accordingly, and no one was wishing they could move out to the corner of the roof!

Get my drift?  It is much more satisfying to attack areas of lack with a we’re-in-this-together mindset and ask, “How can I help you get this done?”

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